It took someone with an alternative viewpoint and who speaks up strongly for it to jolt me into active thinking again. Do the connect-the-neurons and what do you get?
Commitment and courage.
Was bestowed with the title of “Mistress of Vague and Non-committal answers”, and as much as I was initially miffed and chagrined to be cornered into being specific, I have to admit that I am (im)precisely so.
Remember in JC when Ms Ting used to comment that my geo essays were “wishy washy” and “airy fairy”… (darn! Feeling sentimental thinking bout being scolded… I’m such a sucker for punishment…) I really didn’t get what she was complaining about. To me, it is very clear when I make just one general sweeping statement. It does encompass everything does it not?
And then I always explain/excuse that I’m a Big Picture person. Big Picture you know? The grandiose, *elegant gesture with hand* BIG picture… Not the small one, mind you…and most people, attempting to be diplomatic and liberally accepting would just “recognize our differences”.
Hah…seems familiar? Bet you do that often too. Disagreeing with someone but not pointing it out and arguing for your stand.
I’m not sure if it’s simply coz of our social education, the government (aha! conspiracy theory!) drums it into our skulls that we are all entitled to our own beliefs as long as (this is the clause) they don’t infringe on other people. Therefore, bearing the Confucian principle of 己所不欲，勿施于人 (Ha! Just gotta show off my Chinese…=p) ala the “Do unto others what you would have others do unto you” teaching, I usually just shut up. When confronted with differences, I’ll take the elevated, ‘enlightened’ position and…
Suck It Up!
Ha…
K, ‘nuff of sociology tutorial…
I realize that for me, when I am vague and won’t commit myself to an opinion, I actually just lack courage.
Me? Me? The gungho, adventurous, free-spirited? (or so I like to think… let me indulge in my imagined self for a while longer…)
As I’m lazy to re-narrate and beautify the conversation I had with my friend. So just cut and paste from history… Anyway, this is the part where you can gloat while I’m being scolded:
(that's me in bold)
you know
you are in danger
a lot of relationships have been screwed up because of your kind of thinking, because it leads the way to not making an effort
it is a chicken and egg problem
lemme tell you that true love does not fall from the sky
you did not get it if you think like that
which means you did not understand all the disney stories either
yea...been scolded for that before
you are the one who makes true love, real love, the so called Love happen
so if you start something you should just think, yeah this is the one and i will make it work
instead of saying: i will see how lah, if works works if dun work then dun work lah
this is a very cowardly thing to do
those who wait for true love are cowards
ouch
Well, obviously I don’t buy the above mentioned theory yet. (and equally obvious is that I barely managed to get a word in edgewise… hee!) I still believe in the wait-see and being cautious. (See! I’m improving… I’m making MY stand!) But the last bit about being cowardly really got to me.
Where does the line end between cautiousness, courage and reckless behavior? I think I’ve been both reckless and cautious. And looking back, at the end of the day, I still prefer cautious.
Call me a coward but cautiousness is safe.
Be safe, Not sorry. =p
So there! My first foray into the land of the courageous, voicing (and publishing, no less…) my non-glamorous opinions.
*beamz*
Commitment and courage.
Was bestowed with the title of “Mistress of Vague and Non-committal answers”, and as much as I was initially miffed and chagrined to be cornered into being specific, I have to admit that I am (im)precisely so.
Remember in JC when Ms Ting used to comment that my geo essays were “wishy washy” and “airy fairy”… (darn! Feeling sentimental thinking bout being scolded… I’m such a sucker for punishment…) I really didn’t get what she was complaining about. To me, it is very clear when I make just one general sweeping statement. It does encompass everything does it not?
And then I always explain/excuse that I’m a Big Picture person. Big Picture you know? The grandiose, *elegant gesture with hand* BIG picture… Not the small one, mind you…and most people, attempting to be diplomatic and liberally accepting would just “recognize our differences”.
Hah…seems familiar? Bet you do that often too. Disagreeing with someone but not pointing it out and arguing for your stand.
I’m not sure if it’s simply coz of our social education, the government (aha! conspiracy theory!) drums it into our skulls that we are all entitled to our own beliefs as long as (this is the clause) they don’t infringe on other people. Therefore, bearing the Confucian principle of 己所不欲，勿施于人 (Ha! Just gotta show off my Chinese…=p) ala the “Do unto others what you would have others do unto you” teaching, I usually just shut up. When confronted with differences, I’ll take the elevated, ‘enlightened’ position and…
Suck It Up!
Ha…
K, ‘nuff of sociology tutorial…
I realize that for me, when I am vague and won’t commit myself to an opinion, I actually just lack courage.
Me? Me? The gungho, adventurous, free-spirited? (or so I like to think… let me indulge in my imagined self for a while longer…)
As I’m lazy to re-narrate and beautify the conversation I had with my friend. So just cut and paste from history… Anyway, this is the part where you can gloat while I’m being scolded:
(that's me in bold)
you know
you are in danger
a lot of relationships have been screwed up because of your kind of thinking, because it leads the way to not making an effort
it is a chicken and egg problem
lemme tell you that true love does not fall from the sky
you did not get it if you think like that
which means you did not understand all the disney stories either
yea...been scolded for that before
you are the one who makes true love, real love, the so called Love happen
so if you start something you should just think, yeah this is the one and i will make it work
instead of saying: i will see how lah, if works works if dun work then dun work lah
this is a very cowardly thing to do
those who wait for true love are cowards
ouch
Well, obviously I don’t buy the above mentioned theory yet. (and equally obvious is that I barely managed to get a word in edgewise… hee!) I still believe in the wait-see and being cautious. (See! I’m improving… I’m making MY stand!) But the last bit about being cowardly really got to me.
Where does the line end between cautiousness, courage and reckless behavior? I think I’ve been both reckless and cautious. And looking back, at the end of the day, I still prefer cautious.
Call me a coward but cautiousness is safe.
Be safe, Not sorry. =p
So there! My first foray into the land of the courageous, voicing (and publishing, no less…) my non-glamorous opinions.
*beamz*
cLoUd DriFteD bY @ Wednesday, January 26, 2005 |
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